Friday, May 17, 2013

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It's Friday night and my daughter is sleeping in my arm while I watch FRIENDS reruns. pretty standard night for me really. but i love it. i mean love it. she's growing so fast that I cant even bear to think about when she is too big to nap on my chest. so for now, I am cherishing. 

I ran across this post (below) on facebook and wanted to share with you all. not just for moms, for anyone who judges. I mean, I know I used to do it. still catch myself doing it at times. you see the kid screaming at Kroger and throwing themselves on the floor and think 'get ahold of your kid lady'. you hear the mom who complains about how hard it is to 'stay at home' and think 'seriously, that's not a real job'. like i said, I used to do that. but let me tell you, my perspective has changed. I see that kid at Kroger and think ' that will be me sooner than I think'. I have days when I can't seem to get a productive thing done other than love on and care for Ainsley and think 'this staying home all day is no joke'. life changes, your view of things changes. 
being a mom is hard. the hardest job I have had in my life so far. when I became a nurse it took me months and months to feel like I could do skills without my preceptor. I finally could put in an IV on my own. I could sedate a patient without having Teri standing next to me. Eventually, I could go into the room and talk to the family members and answer their questions confidently. every day I still have things I have to look up or ask someone about, but in general I go to work feeling like I can handle the tasks required of me. however, I still feel like I have a lot to learn. 

As a mom, I don't think I will ever feel like i've got this down pat. I dont think I will ever make a decision that I don't second (and third) guess. I feel so undertrained so many times. God is constantly reminding me He chose Philip and I to raise the precious baby he gave us. So i spend a lot of time talking to God about Ainsley. about our daughter:)  and that helps. However, I still have a lot to learn:)

I digress. here's the post. I appreciated it so I hope you do too:) 

To the mom who's breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You're a good mom. 

To the mom who's formula feeding: Isn't science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn't produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You're a good mom.

To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You're a good mom.

To the disposable diapering mom: Damn those things hold a lot, and it's excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You're a good mom.

To the mom who stays home: I can imagine it isn't easy doing what you do, but to spend those precious years with your babies must be amazing. You're a good mom.

To the mom who works: It's wonderful that you're sticking to your career, you're a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it's fantastic. You're a good mom.

To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you're too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You're feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren't complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a red box with a big yellow M on it. You're a good mom.

To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast lunch and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they're learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You're a good mom.

To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can't run around. You're a good mom.

To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don't they? We've all been through it. You're a good mom.

To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above? Glass houses, friend. Glass houses.

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